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Nüvi for a newbie?

One of our friends recently asked us about the Garmin Nüvi, and is considering getting one of her own that included real-time traffic data. So, we thought you might enjoy reading along with the advice Stuart offered her, as we are long-time Garmin customers.

The Nüvi line from Garmin is a great set of products, but they come out with so many different models each year that it is hard to keep them straight. Here are some thoughts about what to look for, in no particular order:

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Quick, back to the comfort zone!

Yes, there is value in stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time. You get to experience the new, the wonderful, the strange. You see things differently.

However, it is also equally important to have a comfort zone that allows you a place of safety from which to venture forth.

Many people are in a constant state of turmoil, stress, and distress.

Without a comfort zone, you have no place for the mind or body to rest. Like a metal ball in a pin ball machine, you are bouncing excitedly against the bumpers. You do what you have to do, and despite all the frenetic activity, choices for how to react are limited. In our daily lives, it is easy to perceive threats where there are none. It is easy to choose to be on edge, when you could be relaxed. Our wild animal minds are always on alert. Our outer critics are too numerous and our inner critic won't shut up for a moment.

Tiger Lounging: Took this photo when we had a day at the Animal Kingdom when we were down for launch of STS 120. We were safely behind glass. (Our comfort zone when face to face with Tigers!)Tiger Lounging: Took this photo when we had a day at the Animal Kingdom when we were down for launch of STS 120. We were safely behind glass. (Our comfort zone when face to face with Tigers!)My grandmother used to say, "they can kill you, but they can't eat you," which always left me perplexed. Once I've been done in, who is to say that they won't fry me up with some butter and onions, or tear into me with bare teeth? However, the point was supposed to be that neither outcome was very likely to happen on the school playground. A point that was lost on me as a child. Instead I imagined my playmates to be potential closet cannibals or ravenous beasts. I already did not trust many people, and that simply reinforced my suspicion that I should be on my guard at all times. You never know who might be looking at you with a fork in one hand and a bottle of ketchup in the other!

The most successful people I have met, know how to create some margin of safety for themselves and others. Even when their professions involve real danger, risk to life and limb, or when they are very busy people with more to do than most. Most successful people have some kind of a safe haven -- trusted friends, and room to retreat when the world imposes. People who really know you, who will say "you are alright with me. I don't care what happened or what that other bozo said about you."

The people I know who are trust worthy, are so dear to me, that I would gladly do anything in the world for them. They are a joy to work with. We need not worry about offending each other with small slights, although we are careful of each other's feelings. Some real doozie mistakes are tolerated with a kind eye. We can relax together in close quarters, be awkward or bashful without serious reproach beyond a mild kidding. We can be quiet, or talk. We share a comfort zone. We are tigers among tigers; playing like kittens, with claws withdrawn. We have to give each other room to be safe, even when we know the world is full of other bigger meaner tigers. Schoolyard cannibals might still be out there. Lock the gate, there might be barbarians, or diabolical chipmunks. Dangers real and imagined.

You can't step out of your comfort zone if you don't ever have one. If you wish to live a balanced life, you have to have a comfort zone, some core, some central pivot point of equilibrium around which you can divert energy to stretch, to grow, and to achieve your larger goals and purpose.

Sometimes that point is easy to see, and sometimes that point can only be determined by indirectly watching the motion of daily life swirl around it. It is worth keeping an eye out for it, so you can come back to it often, like a lair.

Once you have even a moment of pause, where you feel a sense of safety and comfort, consider how to expand it, a little... so that over time, you are comfortable in more situations. Eventually, when you break away from the quiet camouflage of the underbrush to pounce and tussle with the Thomson's gazelles, or to deal with the chipmunk menace, you'll always have some restful place for your wild panting tigress heart to return.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

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You and that mountain of paper sitting next to you...

You may have noticed, as I have, that the recent economic news has resulted in a larger than usual flood of postcards, brochures, booklets, letters and junk mail from everyone you have ever done business with.

If you look to your left or right, you may find that you are sitting next to an ever growing mountain of paper, with fairly interesting time sensitive offers, and things that you might actually want to read.

Which brings us to the relationship between our time, our energy and our paper. It takes time to handle all this paper, and there is a popular myth that needs to be faced, debunked, and thrown out with the circulars.

Have you heard that you should handle each piece of paper ONCE?

While there are indeed some pieces of paper that yield to this advice, my experience is that for most paperwork, it is pure nonsense. You may need to handle a sheet of paperwork more than once for many valid reasons. You may need to make phone calls during the work week, get additional information from your files, or simply divide up the work in ways that are convenient for you.

That tinge of guilt you feel as you set aside the insurance renewal form is misplaced, and gets in the way of getting the form filled out and sent off in a prompt and timely manner. For many people, there is simply too much pressure added to the decision making process if you feel that the each of the hundreds of pages of paper that arrive every week represents a choice that has to be made "immediately, and once and for all."

It is useful to let go of the mistaken notion that you will pick up one piece of paper and follow it uninterrupted through its trail to the filing cabinet or wastebasket. It is also useful to let go of the notion that you will necessarily do all your paperwork in one fell swoop.

The reality of handling paper.

So, what is a more reasonable expectation for handling the daily influx of paper? You may find it more useful to handle the paperwork in a series of limited scope passes. Each pass over the pile is intended to reduce, or at least maintain equilibrium over that incoming stack. For extra bonus points, dig deeper into the fray. Given how much paper everyone must handle, you may not be able to do these tasks in one sitting. If you must do a marathon session to clear out a backlog, find extra treats and rewards, and break the work up into as many sessions as you need. The goal is to keep the mood light and cheerful and the pace brisk.

Counter to conventional wisdom, if something cannot be handled in a given pass, set it aside and be willing to return to it in a later pass! The important point is do not stall out. You do not want to get stuck. Keep moving!

First pass: Into the recycling bin! When the daily mail arrives, there is usually some value in doing an immediate session to pitch out what you can. I usually toss these into a paper bag for the recycling.

Second pass: Does this require action? A quick sort of envelopes into three piles for business or personal mail requiring action, and things that are interesting but can wait. The mildly interesting pile should be kept to a limited amount, perhaps by giving it a basket of its own.

Third pass: Envelopes must go! Open up all the envelopes. This takes a shocking amount of time for the stacks that require action. Your stacks will also be smaller and less scary if you flatten them out and get rid of the extra bulk of the envelopes. Use a letter opener and some zippy music to keep the process from bogging down.

Fourth pass: Thank goodness for automation! Separate out the automatic payment statements for things that have already been paid. Separate out the investment statements. Here you are looking for things that you can quickly review, remove from the stack and file.

Fifth pass: Handle the manual payments. Pay bills for ad hoc transactions and file them.

Sixth pass: Make changes, phone calls, and clean up your messes. Much will be accomplished here in pass six! Call back anyone that needs to be called. Accounts that you are canceling. Issues that need to be resolved. Changes that you want to make to services. Appointments that you want to make. Orders that need to be placed. As each thing is resolved, file it or pitch it.

Seventh pass: Shred the Riff Raff. Shred the unwanted offers. You know the stuff... credit offers, bank checks to "improve your cash flow." Stuff that just has no reason to be kept, but that is not safe these days to pitch into the recycling bin.

Eighth pass: Time sensitive events. Keep invitations and announcements for concerts, conferences, networking opportunities or other time sensitive events around in case you want to go someplace and do something. Every so often you will still need to sift out the things that have gone by.

Ninth pass: Thanks for the memories. Things that you want to look at and think about. It is pleasant to look at the theatre playbill for a while after a night out on the town-o. Eventually, these need to go into permanent storage, or into a scrap book, or into the recycling, depending on your level of interest in them. Give each matter only the attention that it deserves.

Tenth pass: A little light reading. You may find a quick dip into the mildly interesting pile makes a suitable reward for completing any of these stages. A stroll through a catalogue or magazine prior to pitching it out is pleasant. It does sometimes send you back to the sixth pass. When you reach the limit of what your mildly interesting basket can hold, tackle it in its own pass. Read what strikes you as interesting, and then pitch whatever is outdated. If something is very interesting, rip out the relevant pages from the magazine, and file it. You don't have to keep the whole magazine.

Not all of this necessarily needs to be done each and every day, but some of it can be done each and every day. To the extent that you keep the sifting process flowing, the mountain of paper sitting next to you will accumulate more slowly, even if it never completely disappears. The process can be less daunting if you avoid becoming overwhelmed in your daily paper handling routine. Remember that there are papers that are simply interesting, important to keep, and worth looking at more than once. Your goal is to keep and distill the best stuff over time.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

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Portrait of a Power Putterer

You've heard of the Power Nap? Power Yoga? I believe you can also use the Power Putter to good effect.

To putter, we walk around, working in an apparently haphazard or idle way. Sometimes a putter is considered a half hearted working mode. Dabbling ineffectively or mindlessly.

To Power Putter, walk around, look at a problem slowly and easily, without guilt, getting stuck, stopping, or losing faith that you'll be able to do it. Your energy is present in a quietly productive, effective and mindful way.

Many "dreaded" projects can be accomplished using the Power Putter. The kind of project where it is easy to be intimidated by the scope of what needs to be done. Where you think the project is beyond what you can even make a dent in within the time you have to do it. Your task may even feel like it is on the wrong side of "The Tipping Point" and has submerged into overwhelm and confusion.

The magic of the Power Putter is that we are almost always wrong about that! If we start, we nearly always can have a positive impact on our target project. We can just as easily tip it back into the manageable realm.

If you are cleaning out a closet, a Power Putter might start by picking up a shoe and thinking about whether that shoe is where it belongs. If you are gardening, it might begin by pulling one blade of grass out. If you are doing your paperwork, it might begin by tossing a paper into the recycling bin, or opening an envelope.

The point is to start with a task so minor that it is almost trivially easy, and then continue as though you were unraveling a sweater by pulling on a thread. One task leads to another in a quiet and even relaxing way.

As you get into it, the tasks get a little bigger. You'll find that you are standing on a step stool to put away a box on the upper shelf. Or that you've trotted off to find some storage bags and some labels.

With a Power Putter, we tinker with what we are doing. Push the idea around... gently, until the pieces start to make sense.

This weekend I used the Power Putter to tackle cleaning up my studio room, which had become a big mess over the course of the winter. There were boxes on the floor. The surface of the table had been lost. The sailing gear was out loose roaming around the room. The fiberglassing kit was more or less contained in a Rubber bin but nothing was organized or handy. The dog stuff was everywhere. Looking at the room made me feel like the room was a large disheveled closet, rather than art space, or a guest room.

So began the Power Putter. The very first thing I did was tuck the life jackets and sailing gear into their tote bags. This was a jolly thing to do, because this means we will be sailing soon. I know what should go into those bags, and there was no stress about doing that. A Power Putter always begins with a Ridiculously Easy Task. Notice that I did not go into the Studio thinking I have to clear out this whole mess today. I did not go into the Studio with a ten point plan for what was needed. I just started with the Ridiculously Easy Task, and I didn't stop.

Next, I cleared boxes off the guest bed and stuck the linens in the wash. Then I came back, and had a notion that we might need the fiberglassing kit soon. Might be good to straighten that stuff out. So I sat on the floor and looked at what I had. Stuart's respirator, gloves and safety glasses were not stowed well. With a few labels, and shuffling, the kit was ready for spring maintenance.

Now it was time to swap the linens to the dryer. Okay, I needed to get up and move around anyway. Stretch. Somewhere around then, I took a little break for some music and a snack. Then I went back in and noticed that the string for knot tying needed to be put away. That was easy. And that task made it possible to see that the rest of table had audio equipment and art that needed to be put away too. Some new dog gear had also started to accumulate on the table, and it really didn't belong there. Before I knew it, the table was clear. Now I was seeing the whole structure of the project differently.

At that point, the linens were dry, and the guest bed could be made. Then, I shifted some books around to make room for the remaining photo boxes. Every so often I called Stuart in just to give a hand with something that I might struggle with alone. The key point there was that for a good putter, none of the tasks should become too frustrating. You set yourself up to keep going for as long as you like, and plan to stop before you get too tired or worn out. By that time the room was vastly improved and positively inhabitable! Also note that the room was not pristine, perfect, or prissy. It was just better and clearly more functional than it was when I started. I may need to work on it again soon, maybe next weekend.

None of it was that difficult to do. It was pleasant, cheerful, and I could think in a quiet and peaceful way about whatever I liked. The dreaded chore, rather than offering just work, also offered relaxation, calm and respite from the stresses of the week.

Next time you have a dreaded household project you think you are too tired to tackle, or that looks like a big mess, try the Power Putter approach and see if you can relax while taking positive action towards its completion. You might be surprised not only by how much you can get done by puttering, but also how refreshing it can be.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/