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Llamagraphics, Inc. is here to help you realize those long term goals, so you don't lose track of what is important to you. We are the creators of Life Balance software for iPhone, Palm OS, Macintosh and Windows – a software tool that can help you through the process of balancing work, home, and leisure activities. It is a tool to optimize personal productivity and happiness by giving you new ways to manage your time and to do list, so that you can do more of what you really want to do with less stress and greater peace of mind.

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New for iPhone, Life Balance!

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Life Balance for iPhone is ready for download on the iPhone App Store!

There are also updates for the Mac and Windows desktop editions that support complete two-way WIFI synchronization to the iPhone version.

And don't miss the free Life Balance Advice Book for iPhone, as long as you are there.

The balance between letting go, and holding on...

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This morning, I trotted down the stairs to put in a load of laundry, innocently enough. Then after a little bit, I thought this llama could use a shower. So, I started up the shower, and no hot water was forthcoming from yon spigot.

Hmm. Something was awry. So I sent Stuart down to the basement to investigate, and he came running up the stairs in a flustered way as the washing machine hose had developed a bit of a geyser off of the right side, and was shooting water around the basement in a very wet way. There was a significant puddle across 80 percent of the basement floor. We shut off the main valve for the water to the house. We donned our boots and set about to making the floor less wet.

There were about 5 or 6 cardboard banker's boxes on the floor. Mostly we have plastic bins, but these were the old ones, that we never bothered to move to plastic.

I quickly carried these up to the kitchen and dumped their contents out on the floor. Baci dog in a sympathetic way, came and gently pressed his cheek against mine as I stared at the assortment of notebooks, articles, old magazines and greeting cards. Then he lay down next to my thigh, uncertain how to offer additional canine help.

Among the things in these boxes were true valuables, family photos, acceptance letters from Wellesley, MIT. My grandmother's handwriting on cards. The best recommendation letter ever written by J.C.R. Licklider for Stuart.

However, there was also real junk. Memos from Space Telescope to staff about the restriping of the parking lot, the bus schedule, picnics for astrophysicists with a desire to play baseball. Folders from the Human Resources department outlining benefits packages for jobs that I no longer have, and insurance companies that no longer exist. These were so easy to pitch out, that I practically laughed as I tossed them gleefully into the recycling bin.

Then there were two notebooks and several folders from a disastrous experience of graduate school at Johns Hopkins. These are full of problem sets that contain miserable little margin notes about how unhappy I was. The teaching assistant's notes I made for my undergraduate students. The letter from the department saying that my "prelim" scores were so low that they did not think I would be able to get a PhD, and they were cutting my funding. (This after they had said that the first set of prelim scores would not count!) And my reply letter, which I hope I never sent, even though they richly deserved it.

And so I face a choice. Do I keep any of that stuff?

Why should I keep it? One reason might be to wave it about once I truly become a whopping big success. Ha Ha - see how wrong you were! Okay, that might never happen. Or to show to someone else... see you too can overcome someone telling you that your dream is over. And you can find another dream, or reclaim your dream in a whole new direction.

Why should I give it the old heave ho?! Well, the past is done. There is nothing more to do about it. The people there who were friends have fallen out of touch, and the people there who were vile, are probably still vile, retired, or long since dead. (Here's hoping! *wicked grin*)

Is there some morsel of wisdom yet to be eeked out of this experience remaining?

Obviously, this set of paper still has some emotional kick to it. But is that enough to be worth holding on to it? Where is the balance between letting go and holding on?

Is it imperative to let paper become neutral (or wet) before getting rid of it? Or is it possible to let the very act of pitching it into the recycling, be the act that neutralizes it?

I'm willing to try it and see! Time to throw it out! :-)

By the way JHU - I have had WAY more fun in the meantime than you ever could imagine! Ha!

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

Llamagraphics support center catching up on misplaced email

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This afternoon we discovered a configuration problem with our support center software which prevented us from seeing many of your follow-ups to your helpdesk tickets. We could see new tickets and emails sent directly to support@llamagraphics.com, but your replies to our requests for more information were going into a testing mailbox that was hidden.

I apologize to those of you who have been waiting for help. None of your emails were lost, and there is no need to resend them. The problem is fixed now, and we're working through the backlog to respond to everyone who needs a reply.

Thank you very much to Jeff K, who spotted the issue, and alerted us to what was happening. And thank you also to everyone in our community for being patient with us while we get to your follow up questions.

--Stuart

Quick, back to the comfort zone!

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Yes, there is value in stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time. You get to experience the new, the wonderful, the strange. You see things differently.

However, it is also equally important to have a comfort zone that allows you a place of safety from which to venture forth.

Many people are in a constant state of turmoil, stress, and distress.

Without a comfort zone, you have no place for the mind or body to rest. Like a metal ball in a pin ball machine, you are bouncing excitedly against the bumpers. You do what you have to do, and despite all the frenetic activity, choices for how to react are limited. In our daily lives, it is easy to perceive threats where there are none. It is easy to choose to be on edge, when you could be relaxed. Our wild animal minds are always on alert. Our outer critics are too numerous and our inner critic won't shut up for a moment.

Tiger Lounging: Took this photo when we had a day at the Animal Kingdom when we were down for launch of STS 120. We were safely behind glass. (Our comfort zone when face to face with Tigers!)Tiger Lounging: Took this photo when we had a day at the Animal Kingdom when we were down for launch of STS 120. We were safely behind glass. (Our comfort zone when face to face with Tigers!)My grandmother used to say, "they can kill you, but they can't eat you," which always left me perplexed. Once I've been done in, who is to say that they won't fry me up with some butter and onions, or tear into me with bare teeth? However, the point was supposed to be that neither outcome was very likely to happen on the school playground. A point that was lost on me as a child. Instead I imagined my playmates to be potential closet cannibals or ravenous beasts. I already did not trust many people, and that simply reinforced my suspicion that I should be on my guard at all times. You never know who might be looking at you with a fork in one hand and a bottle of ketchup in the other!

The most successful people I have met, know how to create some margin of safety for themselves and others. Even when their professions involve real danger, risk to life and limb, or when they are very busy people with more to do than most. Most successful people have some kind of a safe haven -- trusted friends, and room to retreat when the world imposes. People who really know you, who will say "you are alright with me. I don't care what happened or what that other bozo said about you."

The people I know who are trust worthy, are so dear to me, that I would gladly do anything in the world for them. They are a joy to work with. We need not worry about offending each other with small slights, although we are careful of each other's feelings. Some real doozie mistakes are tolerated with a kind eye. We can relax together in close quarters, be awkward or bashful without serious reproach beyond a mild kidding. We can be quiet, or talk. We share a comfort zone. We are tigers among tigers; playing like kittens, with claws withdrawn. We have to give each other room to be safe, even when we know the world is full of other bigger meaner tigers. Schoolyard cannibals might still be out there. Lock the gate, there might be barbarians, or diabolical chipmunks. Dangers real and imagined.

You can't step out of your comfort zone if you don't ever have one. If you wish to live a balanced life, you have to have a comfort zone, some core, some central pivot point of equilibrium around which you can divert energy to stretch, to grow, and to achieve your larger goals and purpose.

Sometimes that point is easy to see, and sometimes that point can only be determined by indirectly watching the motion of daily life swirl around it. It is worth keeping an eye out for it, so you can come back to it often, like a lair.

Once you have even a moment of pause, where you feel a sense of safety and comfort, consider how to expand it, a little... so that over time, you are comfortable in more situations. Eventually, when you break away from the quiet camouflage of the underbrush to pounce and tussle with the Thomson's gazelles, or to deal with the chipmunk menace, you'll always have some restful place for your wild panting tigress heart to return.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

You and that mountain of paper sitting next to you...

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You may have noticed, as I have, that the recent economic news has resulted in a larger than usual flood of postcards, brochures, booklets, letters and junk mail from everyone you have ever done business with.

If you look to your left or right, you may find that you are sitting next to an ever growing mountain of paper, with fairly interesting time sensitive offers, and things that you might actually want to read.

Which brings us to the relationship between our time, our energy and our paper. It takes time to handle all this paper, and there is a popular myth that needs to be faced, debunked, and thrown out with the circulars.

Have you heard that you should handle each piece of paper ONCE?

While there are indeed some pieces of paper that yield to this advice, my experience is that for most paperwork, it is pure nonsense. You may need to handle a sheet of paperwork more than once for many valid reasons. You may need to make phone calls during the work week, get additional information from your files, or simply divide up the work in ways that are convenient for you.

That tinge of guilt you feel as you set aside the insurance renewal form is misplaced, and gets in the way of getting the form filled out and sent off in a prompt and timely manner. For many people, there is simply too much pressure added to the decision making process if you feel that the each of the hundreds of pages of paper that arrive every week represents a choice that has to be made "immediately, and once and for all."

It is useful to let go of the mistaken notion that you will pick up one piece of paper and follow it uninterrupted through its trail to the filing cabinet or wastebasket. It is also useful to let go of the notion that you will necessarily do all your paperwork in one fell swoop.

The reality of handling paper.

So, what is a more reasonable expectation for handling the daily influx of paper? You may find it more useful to handle the paperwork in a series of limited scope passes. Each pass over the pile is intended to reduce, or at least maintain equilibrium over that incoming stack. For extra bonus points, dig deeper into the fray. Given how much paper everyone must handle, you may not be able to do these tasks in one sitting. If you must do a marathon session to clear out a backlog, find extra treats and rewards, and break the work up into as many sessions as you need. The goal is to keep the mood light and cheerful and the pace brisk.

Counter to conventional wisdom, if something cannot be handled in a given pass, set it aside and be willing to return to it in a later pass! The important point is do not stall out. You do not want to get stuck. Keep moving!

First pass: Into the recycling bin! When the daily mail arrives, there is usually some value in doing an immediate session to pitch out what you can. I usually toss these into a paper bag for the recycling.

Second pass: Does this require action? A quick sort of envelopes into three piles for business or personal mail requiring action, and things that are interesting but can wait. The mildly interesting pile should be kept to a limited amount, perhaps by giving it a basket of its own.

Third pass: Envelopes must go! Open up all the envelopes. This takes a shocking amount of time for the stacks that require action. Your stacks will also be smaller and less scary if you flatten them out and get rid of the extra bulk of the envelopes. Use a letter opener and some zippy music to keep the process from bogging down.

Fourth pass: Thank goodness for automation! Separate out the automatic payment statements for things that have already been paid. Separate out the investment statements. Here you are looking for things that you can quickly review, remove from the stack and file.

Fifth pass: Handle the manual payments. Pay bills for ad hoc transactions and file them.

Sixth pass: Make changes, phone calls, and clean up your messes. Much will be accomplished here in pass six! Call back anyone that needs to be called. Accounts that you are canceling. Issues that need to be resolved. Changes that you want to make to services. Appointments that you want to make. Orders that need to be placed. As each thing is resolved, file it or pitch it.

Seventh pass: Shred the Riff Raff. Shred the unwanted offers. You know the stuff... credit offers, bank checks to "improve your cash flow." Stuff that just has no reason to be kept, but that is not safe these days to pitch into the recycling bin.

Eighth pass: Time sensitive events. Keep invitations and announcements for concerts, conferences, networking opportunities or other time sensitive events around in case you want to go someplace and do something. Every so often you will still need to sift out the things that have gone by.

Ninth pass: Thanks for the memories. Things that you want to look at and think about. It is pleasant to look at the theatre playbill for a while after a night out on the town-o. Eventually, these need to go into permanent storage, or into a scrap book, or into the recycling, depending on your level of interest in them. Give each matter only the attention that it deserves.

Tenth pass: A little light reading. You may find a quick dip into the mildly interesting pile makes a suitable reward for completing any of these stages. A stroll through a catalogue or magazine prior to pitching it out is pleasant. It does sometimes send you back to the sixth pass. When you reach the limit of what your mildly interesting basket can hold, tackle it in its own pass. Read what strikes you as interesting, and then pitch whatever is outdated. If something is very interesting, rip out the relevant pages from the magazine, and file it. You don't have to keep the whole magazine.

Not all of this necessarily needs to be done each and every day, but some of it can be done each and every day. To the extent that you keep the sifting process flowing, the mountain of paper sitting next to you will accumulate more slowly, even if it never completely disappears. The process can be less daunting if you avoid becoming overwhelmed in your daily paper handling routine. Remember that there are papers that are simply interesting, important to keep, and worth looking at more than once. Your goal is to keep and distill the best stuff over time.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

Portrait of a Power Putterer

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You've heard of the Power Nap? Power Yoga? I believe you can also use the Power Putter to good effect.

To putter, we walk around, working in an apparently haphazard or idle way. Sometimes a putter is considered a half hearted working mode. Dabbling ineffectively or mindlessly.

To Power Putter, walk around, look at a problem slowly and easily, without guilt, getting stuck, stopping, or losing faith that you'll be able to do it. Your energy is present in a quietly productive, effective and mindful way.

Many "dreaded" projects can be accomplished using the Power Putter. The kind of project where it is easy to be intimidated by the scope of what needs to be done. Where you think the project is beyond what you can even make a dent in within the time you have to do it. Your task may even feel like it is on the wrong side of "The Tipping Point" and has submerged into overwhelm and confusion.

The magic of the Power Putter is that we are almost always wrong about that! If we start, we nearly always can have a positive impact on our target project. We can just as easily tip it back into the manageable realm.

If you are cleaning out a closet, a Power Putter might start by picking up a shoe and thinking about whether that shoe is where it belongs. If you are gardening, it might begin by pulling one blade of grass out. If you are doing your paperwork, it might begin by tossing a paper into the recycling bin, or opening an envelope.

The point is to start with a task so minor that it is almost trivially easy, and then continue as though you were unraveling a sweater by pulling on a thread. One task leads to another in a quiet and even relaxing way.

As you get into it, the tasks get a little bigger. You'll find that you are standing on a step stool to put away a box on the upper shelf. Or that you've trotted off to find some storage bags and some labels.

With a Power Putter, we tinker with what we are doing. Push the idea around... gently, until the pieces start to make sense.

This weekend I used the Power Putter to tackle cleaning up my studio room, which had become a big mess over the course of the winter. There were boxes on the floor. The surface of the table had been lost. The sailing gear was out loose roaming around the room. The fiberglassing kit was more or less contained in a Rubber bin but nothing was organized or handy. The dog stuff was everywhere. Looking at the room made me feel like the room was a large disheveled closet, rather than art space, or a guest room.

So began the Power Putter. The very first thing I did was tuck the life jackets and sailing gear into their tote bags. This was a jolly thing to do, because this means we will be sailing soon. I know what should go into those bags, and there was no stress about doing that. A Power Putter always begins with a Ridiculously Easy Task. Notice that I did not go into the Studio thinking I have to clear out this whole mess today. I did not go into the Studio with a ten point plan for what was needed. I just started with the Ridiculously Easy Task, and I didn't stop.

Next, I cleared boxes off the guest bed and stuck the linens in the wash. Then I came back, and had a notion that we might need the fiberglassing kit soon. Might be good to straighten that stuff out. So I sat on the floor and looked at what I had. Stuart's respirator, gloves and safety glasses were not stowed well. With a few labels, and shuffling, the kit was ready for spring maintenance.

Now it was time to swap the linens to the dryer. Okay, I needed to get up and move around anyway. Stretch. Somewhere around then, I took a little break for some music and a snack. Then I went back in and noticed that the string for knot tying needed to be put away. That was easy. And that task made it possible to see that the rest of table had audio equipment and art that needed to be put away too. Some new dog gear had also started to accumulate on the table, and it really didn't belong there. Before I knew it, the table was clear. Now I was seeing the whole structure of the project differently.

At that point, the linens were dry, and the guest bed could be made. Then, I shifted some books around to make room for the remaining photo boxes. Every so often I called Stuart in just to give a hand with something that I might struggle with alone. The key point there was that for a good putter, none of the tasks should become too frustrating. You set yourself up to keep going for as long as you like, and plan to stop before you get too tired or worn out. By that time the room was vastly improved and positively inhabitable! Also note that the room was not pristine, perfect, or prissy. It was just better and clearly more functional than it was when I started. I may need to work on it again soon, maybe next weekend.

None of it was that difficult to do. It was pleasant, cheerful, and I could think in a quiet and peaceful way about whatever I liked. The dreaded chore, rather than offering just work, also offered relaxation, calm and respite from the stresses of the week.

Next time you have a dreaded household project you think you are too tired to tackle, or that looks like a big mess, try the Power Putter approach and see if you can relax while taking positive action towards its completion. You might be surprised not only by how much you can get done by puttering, but also how refreshing it can be.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

Support Tip - Using Routinely - yes, Plants are different than Bills

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A question came up recently about how to use Routine tasks in Life Balance. The concern was that when you check off a routine task, the next interval begins. The impression was that this can make the next occurrence "overdue" from when you first set up the task, because "Routinely" always moves forward from where you are. Yes, this can have unwanted consequences if you use it for cases where it doesn't apply.

Routinely is not intended for tasks that really do have to happen on particular days. Bills have due dates, and the dates matter. Taking out the Trash won't help if you don't do it in the early morning on the day the trash truck is due to swing by! Don't use Routinely for repeating tasks where you care what day and time the task actually gets done. You want those to be set up to repeat by calendar, and you can do that in various ways.

However, watering your plants is terrific for routinely, because if you water them too frequently they will not thrive. You do want to water them "every so often" and it is often not too critical if you miss a day because you have something better to do. Once you check off watering the plants, you want to check back with them again in three days to see how they are doing. Excellent use for Routinely. Lots of household chores fall into the routinely category.

Routinely is DESIGNED for the squishy, imprecise stuff of life. One of the advantages of using Life Balance is to not over schedule your time, and to maintain as much discretionary time as possible. Scheduling tasks to be done Routinely can help you to stay flexible when you can, and to carve out more spare time to do the things that are meaningful to you! The temptation can be to make everything a routine task. Many kinds of tasks do qualify to be put into the routinely category, but it is not for everything.

Tasks that could be good candidates for Routinely might include:

Household chores (laundry can wait a day, but maybe not a week!)
Some kinds of self care (walk in the park, go for a run, eat healthily)
Some kinds of self paced studying (learn to tie knots)
Social life (let's go out to see a movie every so often)
Calling your family (don't lose touch!)

Repeating tasks that might be better scheduled by calendar:

Paying the rent
Car maintenance
Setting up dentist and doctor's appointments

Which technique you choose depends largely on the likelihood and the consequences of missing the task.

Note that exercise could be a routine task, or not, depending on how you approach it for yourself. Free form exercise can be a good routine task. But if you are scheduled with a personal trainer, or a class, then you want to use the calendar for that instead. Or if you are in training, you may want to exercise according to a firm schedule on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. That is different than wanting to exercise every other day, more or less. The rules and guidelines reflect your personal desires, goals and interests. Choose the appropriate Life Balance technique to match both the task, and your level of responsibility, obligation or commitment to the task.

You may even be able to use routinely for paying bills if you are the type of person who pays every bill as it comes in as part of handing your mail. If you are depending on a garden or farm to feed your family, watering the plants may require a very careful schedule. Your habits and circumstances and the context of the task are not "theoretical." They are real and practical and depend on YOU. You decide. You take responsibility. You take action.

Copyright @ 2009, Catherine E. White, permission is granted for this article to be redistributed and shared with others in its entirety as long as links and attribution are maintained.
Catherine E. White is president of Llamagraphics, Inc., developer of Life Balance™ software for Mac OS X, Windows, Palm OS and iPhone. Life Balance provides a structure for your goals, projects and tasks that is priority driven, so you can to make better decisions about how to use your discretionary time. To learn more, please visit http://www.llamagraphics.com/

Life Balance 5.0.5 for Mac OS X

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Today we released Life Balance 5.0.5 for Mac OS X, which fixes several problems with the iPhone Sync Settings window. We had a couple of reports from customers who were having trouble changing the port number, and traced this to some window activation, keyboard focus and editing commit problems. The new release fixes those problems.

People who are running 5.0.4 should get the update automatically through Sparkle. If you're not running 5.0.4 or have automatic updates turned off, you can get 5.0.5 from the usual download page.

Enjoy!

Llamagraphics support center undergoing renovations

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The Llamagraphics support center has been upgraded to Cerberus Helpdesk 4.1, and is ...uh... looking a little rough around the edges. It may take us a couple of days for us to put the spit and polish on the new support center, but it's up and running.

The good news is that the new support center includes better searching for knowledge base articles, an RSS feed for Life Balance support tips, and eliminates the confusing "login" area of the old support center.

Life Balance 5.0.5 for Windows

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We've just posted Life Balance 5.0.5 for Windows. We recommend that all of our Windows customers install the free update. It is a minor bug-fix release of Life Balance that will be beneficial to all our Windows customers.

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